Friday, March 19, 2010

Feedback please?

I need some feedback on this one.  My boyfriend lives at home with his family until he finishes buying his house; he's really close to them.  I live 2 hours away at college.  
Here's my question.
He's been on a business trip for a week, and I have seen him for 3 hours in the last 3 weeks.  I am down here for my Spring Break, and in my head, I expect him (he doesn't know this) to spend the 3 days I'm down here with me.  But he wants to be with his family some too.  I think that he gets to spend every single evening with them, so why can't I have these few days?  I'd say we should just both go over to his house and play games with his family; but they don't like me.  Honestly, I only know why one of them doesn't, but the rest...I don't know.  Anyway, they give him crap if he brings me over too often, which has now turned into I never go over there.  That's a whole other can of worms that maybe one day I'll blog about.  It'd probably make me feel better :P. 
I understand of course that he is a grown man and can do with his time what he pleases.  But am I wrong in feeling how I do?  Am I just being a selfish girlfriend?  I know that I am perfectly content spending the majority of my time with him, but he isn't.  Which is fine, I just need to know if I am wrong in feeling like I "deserve" these few days with him. 
Feedback please?

4 comments:

  1. This is a tough one, Sheraya. I'm going to consult my personal advice columnist for you . . . what do you know! She has one that suits this situation quite well. http://www.dailyherald.com/story/?id=99419

    Good luck! And remember: the love you give is never wasted.

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  2. Oh Julie! The fount of knowledge! Thanks for the article! That was pretty similar. Guess I just need to accept it and move on.

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  3. It sounds like hes pulling away fro you. if the family doesn't like the boy/girlfriend it doesn't usually work out. family is usually more important to a man. If you expect him to do something don't assume he'll act on it. Men are stupid and need things spelled out for them and if he doesn't want to spend time with you or is making excuses then I'd say end it. He could be cheating on you though... I just got out of one of those.
    Sorry for the random comment, just ran across your blog.

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  4. You're fine. Thanks for your comment. Honestly that was just a small tense-ness in our relationship. We really have a good relationship, we just have rough patches. This was months ago. I am sure that he's not cheating, and his family and I are both important to him. He is just learning to balance his time. Thanks though!

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